Opposites attract, right? We seek someone, who is different from us and can help us explore different aspects of ourselves and life around us. While the idea is fanciful when we are falling in love with someone and powered up with oxytocin also known as the love hormone, the reality of living with an opposite creeps up on us after we have made a commitment. Have you not come across couples who fight over every little thing from the daily routine to important decisions? Surely, we all have, but the cases of such people breaking up is definitely on the rise with the latest United Nations report on ‘Progress of the World’s Women 2019-2020: Families in a Changing World’ quoting “The number of divorces in India have doubled in the last two decades.”
Considering the issue, Psychiatrist Dr. Pawan Rathi, an expert in dealing with such issues, shared his insight for readers.
Is it good to be Opposites?
Yes, it is great idea to be with people who are different, because they can balance our situation. However, with the opposite nature, most people choose opposite lifestyles, professions and even hobbies. Here, one needs to have deep understanding of each-other, tolerance and willingness to accept the change.
How to live with an opposite person?
It is natural even when a person has similar background and aspirations to find it difficult to understand the partner at times. There is obviously a difference in the way a woman and man think, understand and react to a certain situation. It is further varied across the way we are brought up. The best way to deal with an opposite person is to look at the positive side.
Noticing the sunny side up!
Notice the best about the other person, like their loyalty, caring nature, discipline, creativity, romance, patience, understanding, cooperation, space, freedom, etc.
How to handle a fight or conflict?
• Don’t resort to yelling or using miserable words that could cause an emotional wound.
• Try to calm down, listen and note the issues being pointed out by the other person.
• Present a justified argument in a balanced tone.
• Do not talk to a third person discussing the fight.
• Avoid going to the past issues and concentrate only on the current conflict.
• Remember that when in angry, one can often be messy with words and unsure of their own feelings.
Considering the issue, Psychiatrist Dr. Pawan Rathi, an expert in dealing with such issues, shared his insight for readers.
Is it good to be Opposites?
Yes, it is great idea to be with people who are different, because they can balance our situation. However, with the opposite nature, most people choose opposite lifestyles, professions and even hobbies. Here, one needs to have deep understanding of each-other, tolerance and willingness to accept the change.
How to live with an opposite person?
It is natural even when a person has similar background and aspirations to find it difficult to understand the partner at times. There is obviously a difference in the way a woman and man think, understand and react to a certain situation. It is further varied across the way we are brought up. The best way to deal with an opposite person is to look at the positive side.
Noticing the sunny side up!
Notice the best about the other person, like their loyalty, caring nature, discipline, creativity, romance, patience, understanding, cooperation, space, freedom, etc.
How to handle a fight or conflict?
• Don’t resort to yelling or using miserable words that could cause an emotional wound.
• Try to calm down, listen and note the issues being pointed out by the other person.
• Present a justified argument in a balanced tone.
• Do not talk to a third person discussing the fight.
• Avoid going to the past issues and concentrate only on the current conflict.
• Remember that when in angry, one can often be messy with words and unsure of their own feelings.
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